Domestic and family violence in our communities is real. In an emergency call the Police on Triple Zero

Domestic and family violence can happen to anyone. Research shows that as many as one in three people in the LGBTIQ+ communities have experienced domestic and family violence, either in their current relationship or in a previous relationship.

It’s time to ask yourself–is your relationship healthy or are you experiencing unhealthy behaviours?

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Are you in a healthy relationship?

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Healthy relationship

  • You feel safe.
  • You feel supported.
  • You feel appreciated and valued.
  • You can be your true self.
  • You know your partner has your best interests at heart.
  • You feel free to share your opinions.

Unhealthy relationship

  • Your partner treats you like a possession or becomes jealous for no reason.
  • Your partner isolates you from friends and family.
  • Your partner constantly monitors your whereabouts.
  • Your partner tells you how to dress.
  • Your partner constantly criticises and belittles you.

If you think your relationship is unhealthy and you don’t feel free to be yourself, you may be experiencing domestic and family violence.

The most important thing to remember is that domestic and family violence is not about conflict, it’s about power and control. In a healthy relationship, there is an equal balance of power between partners, and both partners feel free to state their opinions and make their own decisions.

Domestic and family violence

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Domestic and family violence happens when one person in a relationship uses abuse or violence to maintain power and control over the other person.

Abuse is not always physical. It can be emotional, sexual, financial, social, spiritual, verbal, psychological or technology-based. Or it can be some other form of controlling behaviour or threatening behaviour that causes the person being abused to be fearful.